With the topic of mental health on the rise, there is an especially prevalent surge of questions regarding mental illness when dealing with divorce. When placed in the instance of a divorce, your mental health and your spouses mental health are brought into question. This blog post answers the million dollar question, “Can mental illness hurt my divorce?”
According to the
National Institute on Mental Health (NIMH), Research shows that mental illnesses are common in the
United States, affecting tens of millions of people each year. Estimates
suggest that only half of people with mental illness receive treatment. The
NIMH continues, Nearly one in five U.S. adults lives with a mental illness
(44.7 million in 2016).
With statistics like those mentioned above, its no wonder why mental
illness plays a role in a share of divorces. Not surprisingly, a number
of spouses admit that their spouses mental illness was a determining
factor in their decision to
divorce. Or, that their own mental illness played a role in their spouses
decision to divorce. Beyond that, a diagnosis of mental illness can have
a material impact on the divorce proceeding itself.
If you are contemplating a divorce and there is a question about your mental
health, or your spouses mental health, and how it can affect
spousal support, and your overall
divorce settlement, we urge you to contact our firm for advice. Before you file for divorce,
you should learn more about how mental illness can impact your case.
How Mental Illness Can Impact a Divorce
When it comes to divorce proceedings, mental illness can be tricky. Since
the facts vary so widely and no two cases are identical, its impossible
to say that all cases involving mental illness will have the same outcome
because thats simply not true.
Some people have such a severe case of mental illness that they are living
in another world. They can hear voices. They have hallucinations or theyre
delusional. They can be suicidal or homicidal, disconnected from reality
and unable to hold down a job, care for their children, or even take care
of themselves. They can be emotionally volatile, violent, or suffer continuous
physical symptoms like fatigue and stomachaches.
They may even be in and out of mental hospitals and if they stop taking
their medication, they may go missing or spend all day in bed, unable
to interact with their family and the outside world. While anxiety and
maynot be crippling, the following conditions can have an effect on a divorce,
but others can too:
- Social phobia
- Bipolar Disorder
- Paranoid Personality Disorder
- Multiple Personality Disorder
- Borderline Personality Disorder
- Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
- Intermittent Explosive Disorder
- Posttraumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Sometimes, mental illness can play a role in a divorce. Often, it has a
way of impacting child custody, asset division (Does the mentally ill
spouse doesnt have the cognitive ability to handle half the marital
assets?), and spousal support.
If your spouse is accusing you of being mentally ill, it can stigmatize
you and your childrens perspective of you as their primary caregiver.
You could be a responsible, loving parent, but if your husband or wife
is labelling you as mentally ill, it can affect your childrens
opinion of you, especially if theyre old enough to understand the
accusations or an official diagnosis.
Suddenly, you may become less in your childrens eyes. Instead of
taking care of them every day, they may think they need to take care of
you. They need to make you dinner. Drive you to the doctors office
(teenagers), let you sleep in, and help you with the household chores.
If your children are already stressed by the divorce, introducing mental
health issues can make an already bad situation worse. The stress can
reach the boiling point, causing your children to act out, slam doors,
run to their friends houses, and have difficulty socializing at
school and during extracurricular activities.
Are You Concerned About Your Spouse?
Perhaps youre perfectly fine, but its your spouse your concerned
about. If your spouse cant get out of bed, or if they cant
take care of your children, or if they are disappearing for hours or days
at a time, or if they are completely disconnected from reality, you may
be concerned that they are incapable of caring for your children.
If your husband or wifes mental illness is such that unsupervised
parenting time is dangerous to your children, we suggest you start documenting
your spouses condition and recording information of witnesses who
have seen first-hand your spouses episodes. You may need to introduce
this as evidence in court.
However, if your spouses mental illness does not pose any actual
risk of harm, if he or she simply holds different values than you, it
may be better to find another way to seek custody of your children. It
may be easier to persuade him or her that its in the best interests
of the children. You dont want to play the mental illness card
unless it is a very real and valid issue that needs to be addressed by
the court. After all, your children love both of you and they need two
loving parents in their lives.
How Mental Illness Can Affect a Divorce Settlement
A bitter spouse can swear to get even when they get to court because of
their spouses mental illness, but more often than not theyre
wrong. In fact, the spouse may get the opposite of what they anticipated.
If the mentally ill spouse is a kind, loving parent and their mental illness
does not get in the way of their parenting, the court could order the
healthy spouse to pay spousal support and child support, and they may
not award the healthy spouse primary custody.
When should mental illness be a concern in a divorce?
- When it interferes with a spouses parenting ability.
- When there is a high risk of
spousal or child abuse.
- When the children are at a risk of being neglected.
- When the mentally ill spouse will seek spousal support because of their
If mental illness is an issue in your divorce, we urge you to
contact our firm to meet with a Los Angeles divorce attorney for free. You should know
how mental illness can impact your divorce proceedings.