A divorce can cause a lot of conflicts, even after it’s over. As the holidays approach, you may feel uncertain about how to celebrate the holidays post-divorce without worrying about losing your sanity. The following tips will help you make the holidays more enjoyable and ensure you can find your new normal after your divorce.
Some couples manage to maintain their holiday traditions just the same as they did before the divorce. However, if you aren’t one of those people, you can still make your holidays less stressful by creating new traditions, while maintaining some sense of normalcy, especially if you have children. It’s essential to evaluate which traditions you want to continue and which ones you want to revamp to accommodate your changed family.
Juggling time around the holidays can be complicated, but it doesn’t have to be impossible. Encouraging your children to spend time with each parent reduces anxiety and shows them both parents still love them the same. However, it’s essential to check your attitude. Don’t express animosity toward the child’s other parent and don’t let anger or self-pity get in the way of an enjoyable holiday season.
Splitting time between both sides of your child’s family takes advanced planning. Think about how you want to handle the holidays and discuss the details ahead of time. Your court order should detail how the children spend holiday time with each parent. However, you may need to exercise a little more flexibility to ensure children are comfortable, especially if this is the first holiday season after your divorce.
Your family dynamic has changed. Giving yourself a fresh start by implementing new family traditions can go a long way toward improving the holiday season and making it easier for everyone. If there is something you previously wanted to incorporate into the holidays but your former spouse was against it, now is the time to consider adding it. Set realistic expectations and let your children take the lead in helping you choose what to do for the holidays.
It’s common to struggle financially after a divorce, particularly in the first year or two as you seek to establish your new lifestyle. However, it’s essential to make sure you always have some gifts for your children to open. Even if you need to reach out to local charities, family members, or friends for a helping hand, gift giving will ensure a sense of normalcy for the holiday season. Be sure to set a budget and stick to it. After all, buying your children’s affection with gifts will only backfire in the end.Equipped with little more than a cellphone, it doesn’t take much to have a high-quality recording device within arm’s reach at all times. Technology has fundamentally changed the way that we live our lives and that has manifested in how we interact with one another, particularly in the legal realm. Couples undergoing a potentially contentious divorce may want to leverage that technology to their benefit, potentially helping record admissions of cheating, asset hiding, and any other potential beneficial evidence that may help in the following proceedings.
One question underscores today’s topic: is it legal in California to record my spouse during our divorce proceedings?
The urge to gather photographic and audio evidence may overwhelm common sense, but don’t allow it to happen to you. California is a two-party consent state with regard to wiretapping laws, thus requiring that both parties be aware that the conversation is being recorded while also giving consent to said recording.
What does this mean in simpler terms? You are not legally allowed to secretly record a private conversation with your spouse.
Resist the urge to win debates by using illicit tactics as they will not help your case and can even lead to stunning legal consequences. Instead of risking your financial future and your freedom, hire a legal representative like Erica Bloom Law to guide you through the process.
While it may be difficult for divorcing spouses to give one another on-the-record consent to record conversations, it is not the only option available. To keep things cleaner and calmer, some divorcing partners will have one or both attorneys offer to depose the other party, engaging with opposing counsel to answer questions. The party being questioned can have the support of their attorney on hand to provide legal guidance throughout the process. Information acquired through a deposition can be shown in court.
California is listed as a no-fault divorce state, which means that both parties are able to walk away without proving anything for the divorce to become settled. Instead of potentially violating your spouse’s right to privacy, leading up to and including criminal charges, your best course of action is to let sound legal counsel act as your compass.
To learn more about the ins and outs of the divorce process in California and to find support from a legal representative, contact Erica Bloom Law with any questions or concerns you might have.
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